Climbing Out of the Abyss – Part 23

July 11, 2017

Divided Mind – Taming the Ego

By Paula O’Sullivan

 

Taming Ego

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‘We must go beyond the constant clamor of ego, beyond the tools of logic and reason, to the still, calm place within us: the realm of the soul’ – Deepak Chopra

 In order to tame the ego, we must first know a little bit about it, and why anyone would even want to tame it. Notice I said tame, and not destroy it, as we need it in some ways to know ourselves as an individual. If you look in the dictionary, you may very well be still confused as to what it is. It is described as; a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance, the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity, and, a conscious thinking subject. Interesting descriptions.

There are many ancient stories that refer to the beginning of the ego / divided mind, in mankind. Some relate to Atlantis, the Annunaki, and the creator gods. There are references in the bible too.  The Adam and Eve story refers to the creation of the Adamic and Eve race and the subsequent division of mind and the discovery of good and evil, or more appropriately, awareness and unawareness. Apparently the original souls that came to earth, were of a higher consciousness and were fully aware. The duality or division of mind that ego created, led us out of paradise, not poor Eve! We’re in paradise or heaven when we’re fully aware, we’re in hell when we’re not! I’ll explain more about this in a future article.

To make it easier to understand, let’s consider that Ego stands for Edging God / or Goodness Out. If we were like the original souls, before the fall, we would have a higher consciousness and awareness of ourselves and others. We would make more decisions and choices based on love and compassion. We would only see the connections between souls. We would recognize the similarities we all share in this earth school.

Well the good news is, that we are like the original souls, we all have an inherent goodness in us, a light, an awareness, a conscience, or Con – Science (science of the heart)

However for a long, long time we have been conditioned to exist from the perspective of the ego.

The ego is our lower, baser self, it’s all about the ‘Me’ part of us, and self – preservation. The higher part of ourselves, the ‘I’ is the soul, and is about the interconnectedness of all things.

How were we conditioned?

We’ve been encouraged to believe in borders, flags, nationalities, patriotism, and differences. Cautioned to ignore our intuition (tuition from within) and to be skeptic of it. The religious and political stories we’ve been told have separated us from ourselves and others. All arguments, all wars spring from ego, the need to be right at all costs.

We were told Eve was to blame, this started a patriarchal system that is still alive and kicking today.  Women are still being treated as second class citizens around the world. Yes the men did and still do terrible things, they have been conditioned that way. Women do awful things too. In unawareness, in ego mind, we are separated from our soul’s highest intentions.

We were told that the God we believe in is outside of us, and that we’re not worthy enough to even gather up the crumbs from under the table of that entity. If we were encouraged to believe that entity was within each of us, we might just feel it important to respect everyone. We’d all be sacred then wouldn’t we?

Far too many of us were brought up mostly in an unloving manner, with a social myth about ‘sparing the rod and spoiling the child’. We now know that this way of parenting creates people who are unable to love, to connect to themselves and others. It creates people who are dependent and prone to depression, suicide and addictions. It creates people who feel they are flawed, disconnected and unworthy.

Our school systems are primarily geared towards left brained learning. Most of it is academic, analytical, rational stuff. From an early age our minds are crammed with useless shite, of little or no use in our everyday lives after we leave. We are taught to listen and repeat, and not taught to think and reason for ourselves.

We are taught to ridicule the imagination. ‘It’s only your imagination’- (you’re just a feckin looney!)

Perhaps psychology was introduced to highlight and control those fucked up individuals among us who didn’t conform to left brain conditioning. If you’re a right brained creative or psychic etc. you’ll be seen as a weirdo, more separation. Don’t worry if this depresses you, they have a pill for that!

Look around you at your world if you don’t believe me for proof of ego mind in action. Poverty, hunger, greed, wars, bigotry, racism, sectarianism, pollution, slavery, crimes, mental health issues (gentle souls get depressed, in this unloving world of ego. You rarely hear of egotistical psychopaths getting depressed do you?) Pornography (this separates males and females from forming connected sacred sexual relationships) and on and on the list goes!

Is this the kind of world we want for ourselves and our children and grandchildren?

So how do we tame our ego, how do we begin to heal the divided mind?

  • Learn to love, accept and respect yourself, then you’ll begin to love accept and respect others, you will see the connection between us all.
  • Start to value your imagination. It’s the greatest gift we’ve all been given, use it wisely and only allow what you would like to happen into it. Know that what you wish for others, you wish for yourself.
  • Pay attention to your intuition and your conscience, that’s your soul prompting you to other alternative more aware choices.
  • If you are in two minds about some decision, ask how this will affect all concerned, if it hurts or harms another person or being, choose carefully.
  • Practice using your right brain. Stories, music, art, being creative, exploring imagination etc. We need both sides of our brain, we’re like an aeroplane flying on one wing otherwise.
  • Meditate, and listen to the promptings of your higher self. There is a wiser, less mean part of us. We can be cold hearted beasts or warm hearted angels, or somewhere in between.
  • Catch yourself trying to be right, trying to win at the cost of another, trying to destroy someone else, by gossiping etc. Catch yourself out.
  • Find the ‘I’ that is observing the ‘Me’ Find the wiser self, watch the ego play its little games.

Part 24 – The Relationship Bank

Paula is an Author / Hypnotherapist / Reiki Healer / Life Coach / Artist / Photographer, in Blessington Co. Wicklow. www.i-want-a-better-life.ie / paulaosullivan1@gmail.com / Phone 086 0848398 All her articles to date are on her blog www.paulaosullivan@wordpress.com

 

 


Climbing Out of the Abyss – Part 17

September 19, 2015

Steps to heaven

Seven Steps to Heaven

We are surrounded by reminders of the seven steps to Heaven / Enlightenment/ Transformation, but most of us are not really aware of them and how they can help us.

The first of the seven steps to Heaven begin at Hell, in a way. It is represented by Saturn (Satan in Astrotheology) the slowest planet, the limitations of time. ‘Baptism’ – born into our tribe. The ‘Root Chakra’ – our basest survival needs, our ego, self- preservation, where we get caught up in ourselves, habits, addictions, anger, our lower selves. In Alchemy it’s the Lead of self. In Energy it’s the lowest frequency and vibration. It is our ancient and stubborn soul in Spirituality. By letting go of our fear and anger, by looking out for others as well as ourselves, by realizing that there is nothing outside ourselves that can harm or control us except our own vain imaginations, we get to move up to the next level.

Step two is represented by Jupiter, the metal Tin. ‘Communion’ – greater interaction with others, community. ‘We’ rather than ‘I’. The ‘Sacral Chakra’ – when we move up from our ego desires and fears, we find balance between love, money and the power to create. Through using mental exercises and intuition we can seek to let go of repressed feelings that are at the root of all our addictions. With more balanced emotions we go to level three.

Step three is represented by Mars, the metal Iron. ‘Confirmation’ – discovering who we are in the world. The ‘Solar Plexus Chakra’, willpower, the will to live. When we gain insights into our behaviours and how they affect ourselves and others, we learn to assert ourselves without dominating or submitting, we find equality, personal honour, courage, and we move away from materialism and the battles it causes.

Step four is represented by Planet Venus (the glyph is the symbol for life force, the Egyptian Ankh, it denotes a circle over a cross, the triumph of spirit over matter) the metal is Copper. ‘Marriage’ – we become more caring and less manipulative to others. ‘Heart Chakra’-we balance our emotions further, learn our lessons from love and develop greater compassion, forgiveness and empathy. We learn to give unconditionally while respecting our own boundaries.

Step five is represented by Mercury and the metal Mercury. ‘Confession’ – power of speech. ‘Throat Chakra’ – speaking our truth, liberation, creativity, inspiration, expressing our thoughts but balancing speaking with listening, being aware of our inner power without getting caught in the pride of our wisdom, discovering mind over matter.

Step six is represented by the Moon, Silver. ‘Holy Orders’ – being Divinely guided and sharing that knowledge to help others. ‘Third Eye Chakra’ – intuition, free of the ego and instinctual influences, a feeling of connectedness to everyone and everything and seeing how you play your part in affecting the world around you.

Step Seven is represented by the Sun, Gold. ‘Last Rites’ – death to the old ways of living and being in the world. ‘Crown Chakra’ – transformation, a oneness with the universe in which the Divine is experienced. In Alchemy it is the Gold of self, the Philosophers Stone. It is higher consciousness, the highest vibration and frequency. We are in touch with higher guidance, knowingness, enlightenment, bliss, and can fulfill our highest potential.

Part 18 – Interdependence

Paula is an Author / Hypnotherapist / Reiki Healer / Artist / Photographer, in Blessington Co. Wicklow. www.i-want-a-better-life.ie / paulaosullivan1@gmail.com / Phone 086 0848398 All her articles to date are on her blog www.paulaosullivan@wordpress.com


Choose your Illusion

June 29, 2012

Life can seem so complicated at times, but it doesn’t have to be that way. If you ask yourself a few of these simple questions regularly, things will get easier.

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When you are considering making a decision, or taking action of some kind or even when just thinking about someone. Ask yourself:

What would LOVE do now?

Am I choosing LOVE or FEAR?

Is this for The Highest Greater Good of All?

Choices become easy.

For me anyway, this life is just one big illusion, and we don’t have to be ill, we don’t have to be unhappy, we don’t have to be miserable, and you can buy into all the schools of thought that tell you different, and you can become and remain helpless, a victim if you wish, and I do know what I’m talking about, because I went to that school and graduated with flying colours (Or did I?)

But having spent the best part of my life so far in that unhappy illusion, I’ve come to see it, just for what it is, a big fat lie!

And you can choose to stay in your illusion, and I can choose to stay in mine, and I know I cannot save anyone, and I do not wish to try, I am merely sharing information with you, what you do with it is entirely up to you. You and you alone, have the same choice that I did, to take some information and work with it and see what happens. It’s a choice to be miserable, or a choice to be happy. It’s that simple.

There are no limits my friend, no limits! The bars on our cages are the ones we put there ourselves, albeit unconsciously. Every ‘Must’, ‘Should’, ‘Have to’, or ‘Can’t’, that we adhere to, enslaves us even more.

And you can remain in the Fearful Illusion, seeing and feeling your separateness, your disconnection, your aloneness, your anger, your frustration, your doubts, your discontent, your darkness, your despair, with your special conditions, your attachments and expectations, your external control, or you can choose in this moment, that enough is enough, and you can choose to step into the light my friend, you can choose to step into the illusion of ‘Love’.

No nothing will change in the world around you immediately. So if you’re coming from there to here, you’ll probably be asking yourself, ‘Why should I bother, what’s in it for me, what’s the payback?’

Well I’m glad you asked…. where should I begin? Oh yes the illusion of ‘Love’ always begins with yourself. That means loving yourself completely, accepting who you are now and moving forward, choosing to think loving thoughts of yourself, being kind to yourself. No it doesn’t mean elevating yourself onto a pedestal, your ego would have fun with that, over time you would begin to think you are better than others, this doesn’t work, no more than putting others on pedestals will either, that’s a lose, lose situation, no….  you stay on the ground, but make enough equal space for yourself on the level, then you will never feel superior or inferior ever again, great for your self esteem! And once you love yourself, you will like yourself, your own company, you will no longer feel lonely, perhaps alone at times but not lonely, not desperate to fill the empty spaces just for the sake of it, no, your alone time will become special something precious.

When you begin to master loving yourself, you will see your world with new eyes. Now that you aren’t judging and criticizing or doing anything to hurt yourself, that includes dealing with your anger, your fears, your mistrust, your insecurities, you will feel more loving towards others. You don’t need to put others down, to build yourself up, you don’t need to own or control anyone, you see that there is nothing to lose, you free yourself of the things that previously you clung to in fear, and you let them go easily, knowing that what is for you, will come to you, in it’s own time.

New people come into your life to uplift and support you, to build you up, now that you are a loving person; you attract more loving people and situations. You see that it’s not all about getting, and now you see what you can give in any situation, no longer being concerned about giving too much, but remaining mindful that in all things a balance must be reached, and checking in with emotions, of how you feel, will always indicate to you if it’s time to check that while you are being useful, you won’t be used. No longer a doormat, you have a new found respect for yourself and your time and efforts. Evaluating each situation and personal encounter differently and no longer generalizing that ‘They are all the same’. You start to feel really good about yourself.

You find yourself in the light, and your heart fills with joy and you see things for what they really are, just illusions, one feels good, one doesn’t, and you get to choose which one you want to experience. Fear or Love? Despair or Hope? Separateness or being connected? Frustrated or Satisfied?  Sadness or Joy? Miserable or Happy? Illness or Health? It all becomes and empowering choice…. What do you choose?


Letting go of Ego

June 18, 2012

 

Letting go of Ego is not an easy thing. If you try to fight it, it will fight back. So what can we do? Well just become aware of when your ego mind is talking, you’ll recognize it easily. That part of you will always want to make an issue of things. It will want you to take things personally; it will want you to take offence. It will want you to stay in fear. It will want you to have expectations that things must be a certain way. It will want you to be disappointed when they’re not. Ego mind will lead you away from the heart. It will be focused on things and possession, on external sources of momentary happiness, quick fixes, quick highs. And if you continue listening to your ego, you’ll feel empty inside, in between these artificial highs that you’ve become addicted to. Your life will have no meaning, no purpose. I know.. I was there in that hell for far too many years.

What does your heart desire? To love and be loved? How do you do it? Stop listening to the ego chatter, one thought at a time. Tell your thoughts to go talk to the hand! Say next, not welcome! You are not your thoughts but you can become them. Start switching to the type of thoughts that bring you peace, that bring you joy. Let go of rigid expectations, allow things to unfold as they will, just be, accept, observe not judge, stop trying to get everything your way, stop trying to control people and things. Relax, leg go. Let go of the illusions, there is only a problem if you make one in your mind. Choose to be in the company of those who are more heart based than ego, or they will bring you back to that level of vibration. Ego is a low energy frequency. Heart is a high level frequency. Ill health is low level frequency, so watch your thoughts if you are ill or becoming ill. Wellness is a high energy frequency; you can help yourself stay well with the right kind of thinking.

If you stay in you Ego mind, nothing will ever be enough for you, even if you were given the world on a platter, you would still want more, you can never satisfy the ego mind. It’s important to know that you will never, ever, have inner peace, as long as you allow the ego to rule your life.

Heart is different; you become more peaceful, more accepting and at one with your world and all in it. You are easily satisfied and grateful for the basic things. From here you can develop unconditional love. You can even love the haters. You no longer need to be right because that’s an ego thing. And you know that not having to be right, doesn’t necessarily mean that you are wrong. You release the need for such things, it’s ok to just be. This brings you peace, this brings you happiness, which cannot be affected by what you have or don’t have. It cannot be affected by people or things. They no longer have any control over you…. and you become free. It is so empowering… Heaven on Earth…. Goodbye Ego… I’m not missing you x


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