‘Every thought is a battle, every breath is a war, and I don’t think I am winning anymore’ – Author unknown
Have you ever visited the Abyss? I’ve been there more than a few times in my life, and I’ve never once sent a postcard with ‘Wish you were here’ on it! It’s not a good place to be! I was depressed most of my life until about 2010 when I learned some techniques. I’ve never been on medication for it. Sometimes it is necessary though, so always consult your doctor and don’t go rushing off to drop your medications after reading this, which can be dangerous. These suggestions can be incorporated whether on medication or not. I just want to share with you what has helped me.
To change anything, first you’ve got to decide that you want to feel different, better and happier. You’ve got to want this more than the depression. Second, you need to become aware of the types of thoughts you’re having. There are two ways of thinking.
The worst way: To remain in a depressed state we have to focus on all that is going wrong or has gone wrong, keep thinking negative thoughts, have thoughts of self- blame, perceived failures, have lack of faith in the future or have negative expectations. We have to focus on the worst that could happen, to criticise ourselves and tell ourselves things like ‘I can’t’ and ‘I doubt it’, which inevitably will lead to overwhelming feelings of despair, hopelessness, fear and lack of control. We have to not accept the reality of present, past or possible future situations.
The best way: To escape the cycle of depression we must begin to think in a better way. The best way focuses on accepting the reality. ‘Ok, I don’t like what happened to me or what is happening, or I don’t know what will happen to me, but how best can I cope with that reality, right now, where I am, with what I have ? What is the best thing I can do right now? And if there is no action I can take, how best can I survive right now? What is going right? What do I actually have right now? When we ask our minds the right questions, it opens the door to our subconscious mind, which has all the answers. You will find yourself picturing yourself coping in the best possible way. You will ask yourself, ‘How do I want to be feeling, coping, living?’ What would that feel like? Is there anything I can do, no matter how small, to help me feel like that now? How would my life be different if I wasn’t depressed? And could I handle that?’
This can throw up surprising answers. If there is something you can’t deal with in your life, the body will perceive that as a threat to the balance of health. It will express that threat in some way, ie depression, illness etc. It’s like the dashboard warning light in a car. It’s drawing your attention to something in your life that needs to be dealt with. Change the way you think about the situation, and you can reverse the symptom. Sometimes we do too much damage and may not be able to repair it, but we can certainly still make conditions better than they were.
In part 2, I will share techniques for creating positive mind movies.
Paula O’Sullivan is a Hypnotherapist /Reiki Healer her website is http://www.I-want-a-better-life.ie