Climbing Out of the Abyss – Part 4

August 23, 2014

Disassociating Painful Memories

 

Tears

 

 

In previous parts we discussed thoughts, visualization and how foods affect our moods.

Now some techniques for how to disassociate from painful memories.

First, try to accept what has happened, even if you don’t like it. This doesn’t mean you’re giving permission for this to happen to you again. Most of our pain and suffering, and in some cases depression, are caused by our lack of acceptance of what the reality is, and the thoughts and feelings we have about the situation. If you accept that you can’t change what has happened, but you’d like to change how you feel about it, then you can move on to disassociate effectively.

What we’re aiming to do here, is to emotionally detach, so you’re less identified or swamped, allowing you to be able to move on with a clearer perspective.
This first technique is about dissociating a bad feeling. If someone annoys you or leaves you with a bad feeling that you can’t shake.

Return to Universe
• Imagine where that feeling is lodged, i.e. chest, tummy?
• Imagine a colour for it
• Imagine a shape / texture
• Then imagine plonking it onto the table, packaging it up, and then firing it up into the atmosphere, it goes higher and higher into the sky, then into outer space, into the universe for recycling, then poof, it disappears! You may have to repeat this a few times to feel its effect.
• How do you feel now, a bit lighter? Good!
• At least it will give you something to smile about.

Photo Disassociation
• Imagine a person or situation that has bothered you.
• When you think about it, are you in the picture with the person or situation in your mind? Notice how you feel, how bright is the picture? Full colour? Notice how intense your feelings are.
• Now imagine you are looking in on you and the person or situation as if you were a bystander. You can now see you and the person from a third perspective. Notice how you feel now, as an observer, you’ll be slightly more detached and your feelings will be less intense.
• Imagine that you take a photo. There is a frame around the picture of you and the person and situation, and the photo is in bright colour, large and up close.
• Now start pushing that photo further away from you, so that it gets smaller and smaller and the colour starts to fade out of it, until it becomes just a white rectangle in the distance and then, poof, it disappears.
• How do you feel now?
• Repeat this, as often as necessary until you feel better about the person or situation. Ideally the intensity of your feelings about the issue will lessen as the photo gets smaller.

If you need any help with this, or have any questions, please contact me. I’ll share what I can.

Part 5 Self Talk

Paula is an Author/ Hypnotherapist / Reiki Healer / Artist in Blessington Co. Wicklow. http://www.i-want-a-better-life.ie / paulaosullivan1@gmail.com / Phone 086 0848398 All her articles to date are on her blog http://www.paulaosullivan@wordpress.com


The Code of Life

August 8, 2014

 

Code

 

Recently, I was trying to figure out how to place a paypal button on my website. I’m not very techy minded and I wouldn’t have known what a html code was if it came up and bit me!

I spoke with a few people who told me it was a really easy thing to do, just put the code in where you want it they said. The problem was, all I could see was the picture on the page. I pressed the html link and just saw what seemed to be gobblygook, a whole page full of it. I thought I must have done something wrong again, and I left the computer in utter frustration.

While pondering how I was going to figure this out, as I sipped my coffee, sending frantic help pleas into the universe, cosmic mind, my angels, guides and anyone out there who could possibly help. I tried to direct my focus to what I did want. In my mind, I could see the buttons on my page, I could feel my delight, and in my mind I was saying, ‘Yay, I did it, high five’. And suddenly in a flash of insight, I understood, that behind the page I was looking at, was an underlying code, and that if I inserted the code for the paypal button in a certain place that it would appear where I wanted it to go on the page. And within a few minutes the job was complete.

Now anyone of you who are familiar with my writing will know that I didn’t come here to write about computer codes. This experience got me thinking that isn’t this all a bit kinda like our lives? I mean here is our reality, sort of like a computer page. Sometimes the page is fine, it has everything you want on it, and sometimes you’d like to add or subtract something, but don’t know how. And many of us go through our lives, sometimes in despair, trying to find a way to do that. And yes there are millions of people on the internet willing to sell you the secret of doing this for a price, which when you’ve paid for it, you find out later that some of the information is incomplete, and that you couldn’t possibly get there without this missing piece…. for another price of course !

So what I want to share with you is a code for life, so that you can put exactly what you want on your page. I’m not saying it’s the only way, there are many paths up a mountain, who’s to say they know the right way? Try and see if it works for you, what’s right for me may not be right for you, and vice versa.

It’s so simple, you’re going to just say ‘No way, it has to be more complicated than that’. But let me tell you, it’s not and doesn’t have to be. It just takes a bit of practice and repetition that’s all.

We were all born with the most amazing gift, rich or poor, black or white, educated or uneducated, sick or well, male or female (or both) old or young, all have been given this gift. But we have been programmed to misuse it or disregard it since birth.

This gift is your imagination and the power to direct your thoughts in any direction you choose. Your thoughts and your imagination are the code to create a different reality, a different picture on your page.

Ok you’ve probably heard this kind of thing before. But do you know about the ‘Observer Effect’ that was discovered in Quantum Physics?

Scientists found out that it was the observer that created the result. That everything was kind of random until they observed it, and that what they observed formed different patterns, depending on the expectations of the observer. Everything in the universe except energy, is matter, and matter is made up of atoms, and atoms are made up of mostly empty space. Never trust an atom, they make things up lol.  Wow, now for me that was a kind of a mind f**k!

What this means is that our reality, is affected by our observation. What this means is, the more you observe something in your life, whether wanted or unwanted, it will have to stay in your awareness. Now this is what the law of attraction gurus will tell you, ie focus on what you do want, feel as if you already have it now, and even the bible, which has been unkindly edited of all the best stuff, has a few references to this. Here’s one, ‘Whatsoever things ye desire, when you pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them’ Mark 11.24

And that’s all fine and dandy, sometimes I found that worked really well and other times it didn’t appear to be working, and I wondered why. I mean my reality seemed pretty damned real. Albert Einstein apparently said ‘Reality is an illusion, albeit a persistent one’, and hey I’d agree with that!

Then I came across the ‘Universal Spiritual Laws’ I’ll briefly mention some of them here, it’s kind of like the html code, if you want the page to appear, there are certain rules you must abide by. Well, whatever you want, must align with these natural laws. It will also work for whatever you don’t want too. So if your life is not as you want it to be, take note, for this is where you are directing your thoughts and imagination. Focus only on what you do want to appear in your life.

Law of Divine Oneness: everything is connected to everything else, and we affect each other and the universe with our thoughts, beliefs and deeds.

Law of Vibration: everything in the universe moves, and vibrates in circular patterns, everything has its own vibrational frequency, including thoughts, feelings etc.

Law of Action: we must engage in actions that support what we want to manifest.

Law of Correspondence: as above, so below, as above in heaven, universe, so below on earth, and also as above in your mind, imagination, thoughts, so below in your body and reality.

Law of Cause and Effect: every action has a consequence, so we reap what we sow.

Law of Compensation: the visible effects of our deeds or what we have sown are given to us in the forms of gifts, blessings, inheritances, friends etc. We don’t always receive from the person we have given to or have been nice to, but it always comes back to us in some form or another.

Law of Attraction: thoughts, words, deeds, feelings etc. produce energies. Like attracts like energies, negative attracts negative, positive attracts positive.

Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy: we all have the power within to change conditions in our lives. Energies have higher or lower vibrations, by raising our energies we can transform lower energies.

Law of Relativity: everything is relative, there is always someone worse off than us. We all experience problems, or tests of initiation, if we can see these as a challenge and stay focused in the heart when solving them, we strengthen the light within us and can move closer to God Source.

Law of Polarity: everything has an opposite, we can transform undesirable thoughts by focusing on the opposite. We can transform an undesirable life by focusing on the desired life.

Law of Rhythm: everything vibrates and moves to certain rhythms, these establish cycles, seasons, stages of development, patterns etc. We can rise above negative cycles, knowing that this too shall pass.

Law of Gender: everything has its feminine (yin) and masculine (yang) principles, the basis of all creation. Passive and active, thoughts and deeds or action. Nothing happens until something moves. We strive for balance to create what we want.

So to summarize: everything is energetically connected, your thoughts, words,  deeds or actions, all effect someone or something, somewhere. Everything you think, feel and do has a consequence. We can walk the path of the beast and be beastly or the path of the angels and be angelic or just kind. Everything is made up of energy and this can vibrate at higher and lower levels. Lower levels manifest illness, drama, hassles etc. They can be found in addictions, negative thoughts, emotions, poor diets, stress etc. Positive thoughts, emotions, deeds, healthy diets etc lead to higher vibration levels and health, harmony, peace and better spiritual connections, allowing for higher consciousness etc.

We will reap what we sow, if you sow cabbage seeds, don’t expect a rose bush to grow! Our thoughts and actions will determine our experience of reality. We will attract what we hold in our mind, body and emotions. If you hold unto fear, you will attract things to be fearful of. If you focus on undesired outcomes they will continue in your reality.

I have done my own experiments with this. I’ve attracted abundance by focusing on the abundance I already have, gratitude attracts more things to be grateful for. I’ve attracted peace and harmony by focusing on it (‘I can choose peace rather than this’ is a good mantra to help) We can even get people to show us their nicer side, by only allowing our thoughts, imagination and emotions to dwell on the desired behaviour.

People entrain to our subconscious expectations of them, and we get to see the behaviour we expect to see. I found that some people do show me their better sides more often, and that some energetically polarize when I do this, they become uncomfortable around me, or they just move out of my experience and don’t bother me. Either way I don’t have to put up with undesirable behaviour very often, it’s a win, win for me J ! I found that by meditating on the words, ‘Perfect love casts out fear’ when with people who are unpleasant, that they move away quickly from me or change their tune. People act the way they do because of their fear. Try to understand it is their fear. We all have the capacity to be fear or love. Send them love, it will either raise their awareness and consciousness to enable them to see what they are doing, or they will not understand your energy of love, and will be afraid and will move away.

If we want to have a different experience, we have to practice it in our thoughts, feelings, words and deeds because like attracts like. We must be what we want to see. If we want peace, we must cultivate peace within. As within us, so without in our lives. As above so below, as above in our minds, so below in our reality.

So give it a go, hopefully you’ll all succeed with creating the page you want and the reality you really desire, and please do let me know how you get on, I would love to hear about your experiences with this!

Happy Creating!


Climbing Out Of the Abyss Part 3

August 6, 2014

How Foods Affect Moods

Foods

In parts 1 and 2, I discussed how by changing our thoughts, we can change the way we feel, and by imagining positive mind movies we can create an easier way to see ourselves coping with depression.

In this, part 3, I’d like to share what I’ve learnt about how foods can affect our moods and health.

When I was depressed, I only ate because it was a necessity to stay alive. I had no interest in cooking. I consumed mostly processed, high sugar, or fast microwavable foods. I often got bursts of energy and then a slump, which would take me ages to recover from.

Foods contain amino acids that go directly to the brain. These form chemicals that can produce positive or negative moods and affect energy levels. Dopamine is a positive brain chemical. It elevates our moods. It activates the metabolism, which helps to establish a healthy weight. It helps the brain generate the energy it needs, it stimulates the heart, regulates the flow of information through our brains, and it controls movement. Dopamine production is boosted by the consumption of foods, especially those containing the amino acid tyrosine.

Some of the foods that will make you feel good for longer are fresh organic fruits and veg, flaxseeds, free range chicken, turkey, eggs and fish (watch out for mercury) Reduce or eliminate sugary, processed or fatty foods, these stimulate acetylcholine, a negative chemical, which will make you feel bad.

Gluten or wheat in our diets cuts off the blood flow to the frontal cortex in our brain, and affects how we digest our food, which contributes to depression, concentration and digestive issues. It is also linked to the condition schizophrenia. Studies showed full or partial reversal of symptoms when some people cut out gluten and wheat, or were supplemented with a dietary supplement glycine, under test conditions! Processed gluten-free foods are not healthier for you, they have substitutes such as rice flour, potato starch and tapioca starch. These foods have high glycemic indexes, so when people eat them, their blood sugar spikes.

Our bodies are made of 70 -80% water, and if we’re not drinking enough, we’ll feel low moods and experience pains and fatigue. Tap water contains a lot of heavy metals, chlorine, arsenic and fluoride. The fluoride is a halogen, it competes for and displaces the body’s iodine which is essential for a healthy thyroid. Clinical studies in the 70’s, based on giving fluoride as a medication, either by tablet, or a daily dose, 1 part per million, equivalent to one glass of water a day, found it could destroy the thyroid gland. Fluoride is a neuro toxin and it suppresses the natural release of serotonin and melatonin. It contributes to issues of depression, dementia, Alzheimer’s, sleep problems, arthritic type symptoms, osteoporosis, thyroid issues, low IQ, fibromyalgia and more!

Drinking bottled water which has no fluoride in it, or getting a reverse osmosis fluoride filter system installed, is a worthwhile health investment. You can buy fluoride free waters from Tesco: Ashbeck, Perthshire and Highland Spring, Lidl sell: Carrig Glenn, and other shops sell Willow Water, Tipperary Water, Volvic, Evian and Vittale.

Teas, including green and black, can have approx. 3 parts per million fluoride, per cup. One should not exceed 4ppm per day. Try herbal teas or green juicing. We also absorb fluoride from toothpaste and rinses too.

In part 4: Disassociating from painful memories.

Paula is an Author /Hypnotherapist/ Reiki Healer / Artist, in Blessington Co. Wicklow, http://www.i-want-a-better-life.ie paulaosullivan1@gmail.com 086 0848398 All my articles to date can be viewed on my blog, http://www.paulaosullivan@wordpress.com


Climbing Out of the Abyss (Part 2)

August 3, 2014

Positive Mind Movies

‘Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think’

Benjamin Disraeli (quote)

Visualization

 

In part 1, I shared how if we change our thoughts, we can change how we feel. Most people think it works the other way around. They feel depressed and they wait for the feeling to pass, and it may or may not. Being aware of types of thoughts though, at least offers you a choice in the matter. Oh I’m not saying this is going be a fast and easy thing for you. We all have good and bad days where we’re more or less able to deal with stuff.  Checking our thoughts can be tiring. But choose a day when you feel up to it, and then begin.

Also when we are depressed, we play disaster movies in our minds. We can’t picture ourselves coping, or of things working out for us. Here’s a little exercise for you to create positive mind movies instead. Write down how you do want to feel. What do you want your life to look like and how do you want to see yourself coping with whatever happens in your life. I would often call up an image of myself as a strong survivor, admittedly sometimes it was of me standing on one plank, barely afloat, with one arm waving a flag, but hey I was still standing, I was still here! We need to keep our sense of humour!

Close your eyes, imagine a private movie theatre with a freeze frame of you on the screen. You are safe here. Choose a scenario that you want to be better in. How do you want to see yourself acting? How do you want to feel? What do you want to look and sound like? Now press play and practice seeing, feeling and hearing the new you. Press pause, think of what you want to change. Then rewind fast, pause and play the new scene. Repeat the scene a few times and then press save. Anytime the disaster movie comes on in your mind, eject and play the new movie instead. Keep improving on what you want. If you can see it in your mind then you’re already halfway there. When you are comfortable with what’s in your mind, you can then start to practice it in your life.

You probably weren’t born depressed, so if that’s the case, then you acquired a certain way of thinking that has affected you. Each thought, forms and strengthens a neural pathway and reinforces that way of thinking, which affects your behaviour and beliefs. Well you can reverse that, it just takes some time.

Another thing I found useful were affirmations, short positive sentences, like ‘Each and every day, I get better, and better in every way’ I wrote them out on post it notes and stuck them everywhere. Every time I started to feel a bit low, one of them would catch my eye, and remind me that I wanted to feel better, and I would imagine feeling what I wanted to feel. I would repeat them a few times when I awoke, and again when I was drifting off to sleep. This is your body’s natural hypnotic state, your mind is in alpha theta brainwave, and is very susceptible to suggestion, so be kind to your mind at these times!

In Part 3 How Foods Affect Moods

Paula is an Author / Hypnotherapist / Reiki Healer, based in Blessington, Co Wicklow http://www.i-want-a-better-life.ie


Climbing Out of the Abyss – Coping with Depression (Part 1)

August 2, 2014

‘Every thought is a battle, every breath is a war, and I don’t think I am winning anymore’ – Author unknown

Thoughts

Have you ever visited the Abyss? I’ve been there more than a few times in my life, and I’ve never once sent a postcard with ‘Wish you were here’ on it! It’s not a good place to be! I was depressed most of my life until about 2010 when I learned some techniques. I’ve never been on medication for it. Sometimes it is necessary though, so always consult your doctor and don’t go rushing off to drop your medications after reading this, which can be dangerous. These suggestions can be incorporated whether on medication or not. I just want to share with you what has helped me.

To change anything, first you’ve got to decide that you want to feel different, better and happier. You’ve got to want this more than the depression. Second, you need to become aware of the types of thoughts you’re having. There are two ways of thinking.

The worst way: To remain in a depressed state we have to focus on all that is going wrong or has gone wrong, keep thinking negative thoughts, have thoughts of self- blame, perceived failures, have lack of faith in the future or have negative expectations. We have to focus on the worst that could happen, to criticise ourselves and tell ourselves things like ‘I can’t’  and ‘I doubt it’, which inevitably will lead to overwhelming feelings of despair, hopelessness, fear and lack of control. We have to not accept the reality of present, past or possible future situations.

The best way: To escape the cycle of depression we must begin to think in a better way. The best way focuses on accepting the reality. ‘Ok, I don’t like what happened to me or what is happening, or I don’t know what will happen to me, but how best can I cope with that reality, right now, where I am, with what I have ? What is the best thing I can do right now? And if there is no action I can take, how best can I survive right now? What is going right? What do I actually have right now? When we ask our minds the right questions, it opens the door to our subconscious mind, which has all the answers. You will find yourself picturing yourself coping in the best possible way. You will ask yourself, ‘How do I want to be feeling, coping, living?’ What would that feel like? Is there anything I can do, no matter how small, to help me feel like that now? How would my life be different if I wasn’t depressed? And could I handle that?’

This can throw up surprising answers. If there is something you can’t deal with in your life, the body will perceive that as a threat to the balance of health. It will express that threat in some way, ie depression, illness etc. It’s like the dashboard warning light in a car. It’s drawing your attention to something in your life that needs to be dealt with. Change the way you think about the situation, and you can reverse the symptom. Sometimes we do too much damage and may not be able to repair it, but we can certainly still make conditions better than they were.

In part 2, I will share techniques for creating positive mind movies.

Paula O’Sullivan is a Hypnotherapist /Reiki Healer her website is http://www.I-want-a-better-life.ie


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