Becoming Stronger

Written by Paula O’Sullivan

I was asked a while back, ‘How do we become strong?’ I just love being asked this kind of thing, it throws my mind into a mad swirl of questions! I would consider myself a very strong woman, but I hadn’t ever taken the time to analyse just how I got here! Until now that is!

Becoming stronger, and notice I didn’t say strong, as I believe we all have inner strength within us, admittedly sometimes untapped. We are merely unaware of our own strengths and capabilities that’s all. Becoming stronger begins, I believe with the thought or thoughts that tell us ‘I am becoming stronger’… ‘I am strong in the face of adversity’…. ‘Each and every day I get stronger and stronger in everyway’, for how can we be strong if we are always telling ourselves that we aren’t strong? Our subconscious minds believe everything that we tell them, whether it is good for us or not, they just believe, never questioning, always accepting, and are always ready to act out on our orders!

Oh and I know some of you are probably saying words won’t change anything, and I’ll agree with you there, words on their own, won’t change anything, the next thing that has to happen, is that you can imagine being strong, to become strong, put the right kind of thoughts into your mind, tell it what you want to achieve, then get into the feeling of it, if you are visual, if you find it easy to put pictures in your mind, see, hear, feel, imagine that you are in the process of becoming strong, and yes some of you may find this difficult, and if you do… let me ask you to define your interpretation of strong. Write it down on a piece of paper, what do you want to be? Not what you don’t want to be, state as clearly as you can what it is that you want to become, how do you want to act in situations where you need inner strength? Now do you know anyone who is like that, an actor, a neighbour, a partner, a parent, a child, someone you admire for that quality that you seek.? Think about the kind of things they say and do, how do they hold themselves, do they come across as a victim or as a survivor? Do they stand up straight and look someone in the eye or do they slouch apologetically avoiding eye contact at all costs? Observe and see what way you can be like them.

Please note :There’s a difference between being strong and being hard, being assertive and being aggressive, so just to be aware of this. Being strong, doesn’t mean being rude, or selfish or pushy, we can be strong and we can remain nice people!

I’ll leave you with this quote, ‘ It’s not what you are that holds you back, It’s what you think you’re not ’ – Denis Waitley



2 Responses to Becoming Stronger

  1. Jc Widowski says:

    I have to say, youve got one of the best blogs Ive seen in a long time. What I wouldnt give to be capable of develop a weblog thats as interesting as this. I guess Ill just have to keep reading yours and hope that 1 day I can write on a subject with as much information as youve got on this one!

    • Thank you very much for the compliment. Most of my blogs are based on what I’ve learned through life experience, and how I’ve managed to overcome things. If you’ve gone through something in your life, think about how you coped with it, what helped you to get through that time ? Then think about how you can put that into words in order to help another, that’s what I do. Or even just observing people and how they react to things, that could be an interesting thing to blog about also. I wish you well, if you really want to do something, fill your mind with it, imagine it, picture yourself writing what you’d like to write about, things that interest you and your readers, things that give you a good feeling, really get into this, see yourself doing it, be consistant with your thoughts, our thoughts become our reality if we let them, that’s what I did. I only started writing about two years ago, but I had a picture in my mind of helping people and I knew that I would like to write about that. Now I write ! Allow no doubts, no feelings of not being good enough, no fear. Tell yourself I am in the process of developing an interesting web blog. You are capable, you just haven’t been telling yourself that yet. Start today, when we start telling our mind that we are in the process of it , it jumps on board and will help you to make it become a reality, tell yourself this for at least a month, every time we think a thought it strengthens neural pathways in the brain, these form beliefs and then behaviours, then habits. It can take a month to form a new belief about yourself that you are in the process of developing an interesting web blog… go for it ! Come back and tell me how you got on.. what have you got to lose ? Nothing !

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