The True Joy in Life

‘This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one, the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap, the being a force of nature, instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy’- George Bernard Shaw 

Wow, how many of us are willing to recognise or even admit to being a selfish little clod of ailments and grievances and how many of us find the true joy in life, the life purpose that Shaw mentions here? And on realising it about ourselves, what do we do about it?

Well much as I hate to admit it about myself, I was that clod! It has taken me nigh on forty odd years to realise it. I’d like to think I’ve changed, I’ve certainly made great efforts to change the way I think and act and amazingly enough, in the process I discovered my life’s purpose too! (To help others- in every way and any way I possibly can, until I draw my last breath!)

I have had a few awakenings in my life where I literally woke up and smelt the coffee! But nothing as dramatic as the last one was. I became ill last year, and thought I actually had MS. I was feeling ill and looking ill and I suppose I resigned myself to being ill. (Not good) I wasn’t terribly happy in my marriage either but again I resigned myself to that being my lot in life, and then I met a stranger, who just for a fleeting moment (in life terms) was so incredibly kind (and I hadn’t experienced much kindness in my life) that it awoke in me a longing to change my life in the most positive way possible. Nothing has been the same since, and although that person doesn’t know the effect they had on me, we must all be aware of the possible effect we could have on each other, and strive to make that affect a positive one. There is a saying that some encounters with strangers leave footprints on your heart, have you ever experienced this? It may be just something someone says, or the way a person is, that awakens, or sometimes it’s not a person, but it may be just a vague feeling of things not being quite right in your world,  that is the beginning of you becoming you. Some of us follow the hint and some of us bury it deep inside and never find our true selves or our purpose in life.

Well I followed the hint this time. I started looking after my self, changed my diet etc. I was ill, but I didn’t have to look it. I changed my attitude from poor me (victim) and accepted the process. I then focused on my life. There was a lot of clutter in my life, outdated beliefs about myself that no longer served their purpose and many things that should have been discarded years ago. I got busy reading books that would help me; I used daily affirmations & CDs, I enrolled on a distance learning course. I became the change I wanted to see in my world and yes I had to make some drastic changes in my life and I had to begin again in a sense. I became well again all my symptoms disappeared and tests came back normal too! I have very few regrets, the past cannot be changed, and I believe that our point of power is now; it is the only time we can change anything. Don’t delay, life is so terribly, terribly short, at least attempt to find you, and find your purpose, before you’re too old or too tired or too ill or maybe you’ve already started your journey? I wish you all well, whatever season of life you are in, if you have not begun, then begin, it is never too late.

I heard a great saying in the film The Shawshank redemption- ‘Get busy living or get busy dying!’ and I kind of took it on as my life’s motto. Well I got busy living and I can tell you honestly that I have never been so balanced, so at peace with myself and my world. I have learnt to put fear in its proper place. I have learnt to be very grateful for all I have in my life, I have learnt to accept responsibility for the things that have gone wrong in my life and I have stopped blaming and being judgemental. I have realised that it is me who makes me happy, my thoughts are controlled by me and I choose to be a positive clod!

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